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FML - The follow-up

Today, I found out my wife confided in a coworker that she wants to sleep with him, because our marriage is loveless and sexless. News to me. FML

semokco Say more :
Howdy! Op here. So nice of all of you that assume that I'm not doing my part. Let me say: I am. Our marriage is not sexless, I do express and have expressed my love in creative and whole ways. Our marriage is not "sexless"- there is a possible pregnancy, ATM.
By semokco - / Thursday 14 May 2015 18:59 / United States - Seminole
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That is so messed up on many levels. I am so sorry OP! I would say try counseling if you desire to, but I know from experience that it's always easier said than done to make a spouse work on marriage; especially when it sounds like she's already moving on. :(

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Then you should confide in her. Communication is key. Even if you feel like the relationship is good, obviously she doesn't. Bitch move by her, but clearly she isn't happy with the relationship.

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Not a simple bitch move, if she's actively looking to cheat him and doesn't give a shit to cover up it seems the relationship is already over, she just didn't tell him.

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"Just didn't tell him" is the bitch move part, not actively looking to cheat. If you want out of a relationship, that's not bitchy. Not ending it before pursuing other love interests is.

That is so messed up on many levels. I am so sorry OP! I would say try counseling if you desire to, but I know from experience that it's always easier said than done to make a spouse work on marriage; especially when it sounds like she's already moving on. :(

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One mistake? That's one hell of a mistake. He should not give her (a futuristic cheating bitch) any second chances. She obviously doesn't care for her hubby. Oherwise she would of confided in him long ago. OP deserves someone who will be faithful to the bitter end and returns the same amount of love he gives. I can't understand your point of view.

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#24 yes everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone makes huge mistakes such as making plans to cheat on their spouse instead of talking to said spouse about their unhappiness.

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I've freaked out and broken down over my husband and I not having enough sex. It messes you up, you feel unloved, ugly, and a ton of other awful things. Maybe once a month is enough for him but she is sexually frustrated. In my case my husband was over worked and tired, where my energy and excitement level spiked. So every time I tried to start something he was tired or not in the mood. I sent him a massive message saying I felt unloved and no longer sexy, at first he called me crazy and that we

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@18... that wasn't a mistake. A mistake is when you do something by accident, or you do something without understanding how it undermines your intent. This wasn't a mistake, it was as deep a betrayal of trust as if she'd slept with the coworker. Hats off to people who come back from something like that, but it is hard, painful, and very uncertain. I would agree with trying to save the relationship in principle, but I wouldn't judge a man at all harshly if he felt that his wife declaring their

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I agree with you... I think the problem here may be miscommunication. The wife may even have done this to get his attention. It's not unheard of for someone's partner to be totally oblivious to the fact that their relationship is loveless and sexless. Especially if they're a workaholic. It wasn't right for the wife to run off and try to cheat instead of dealing with the issue headon, but I'd like to know why this is "news" to the op?

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