239
Add a comment
You must be logged in to be able to post comments!
Create my account Sign in
Top comments
Comments
Reply

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply

I guess it depends. Maybe she actually regrets it and feels awful and is going to change, and maybe OP is the kind of person that can forgive something like that and move past it, but personally I couldnt. I would get a good lawyer, divorce her and never look back.

Reply

I made an account just so I could reply to you. First that is COMPLETE horse shit, all she accomplished was to make herself feel better for telling you and you feel worse for knowing. Truly an FML situation, so very sorry OP.

Reply

Clearly since she cheated on him, it means that she doesn't love him... Not to forget it happend multiple times! Sorry OP but you can't turn a hoe into a housewife... Time to move on

Reply

Yeah as much as I hate cheaters people on here are forgetting that the fact that she actually confessed says something. He probably never would have found out otherwise. If your spouse wants to truly be honest with you to the point where they'll admit doing that it means that they actually do care. Cheating is wrong and there's no question about that, but we all have moments of weakness where we do stupid things we regret later. Again, not saying that to say it's okay. I'm only pointing out that just because I've never cheated doesn't mean I have the right to get on a high horse and act like I'm better than everyone cause I've made mistakes, just different ones. If the husband truly doesn't want to be with her anymore I do think he has the right under those circumstances and shouldn't be judged for it, but if he decides he wants to try and work it out that's also something to be admired.

Reply

She should have just confessed right away, but be honest: If you cheated on your significant other and regretted it almost immediately after, do you think you'd actually confess right away? Yes that's the right thing to do, but be honest with yourself: you probably wouldn't. It's pretty judgmental to just assume that the only reason she waited until now to tell him was because she wanted to make sure they were already in the marriage first so he'd be less likely to dump her. That might be true, it might not. It may very well be that she was just too afraid to tell him because she didn't want him to leave her so she tried to just keep it secret, but after a few months she just couldn't live with herself anymore. Either way she was in the wrong for not coming clean right away, but again, most people wouldn't have it in them to confess the next day.

Reply

Nobody said it makes the original act okay. It just means that the person is trying to make the right choice now. Cheating is a wrong. Hiding it forever is another wrong. When people screw up the best thing to do is take responsibility and accept the consequences. At least then they've made one right choice. You're the idiot if you don't understand that.

Reply

She's 5 months 2 l8 4 dt now he can never trust her again & now hes either stuck with 4 a long time or has to pay a lot of money to get a divorce right after he had to pay 4 da wedding stuff & if they went on a honeymoon he would hav 2 pay for dat

Reply

Well, I say it's iffy. I mean, she did marry OP and as far as we know, she stopped seeing the other guy. I say a second chance is in place as she could have always not told you and/or continued to sleep with the other guy quite easily, but she didn't. Ofc, do be a bit more watchful, but I say she can redeem herself. Stick in there for a bit.

Reply

Considering OP married his wife under false pretenses (i.e. his wife lied to him), he has no obligation to uphold the wedding vows. Not only that, but "for better or for worse" is not a free pass to do whatever you want that may hurt your spouse.

Reply

116, Yes that is an opinion. Plenty of other people will argue that it is very possible to love someone and still cheat on them. I suppose the only way you can validate your claim even with yourself is to have been in a situation of temptation with several partners, and cheated on all of the partners you never truly loved. If you didn't, your opinion is invalidated, because it would suggest you're just not someone who will cheat in the first place.

Reply

The last thing you said is exactly right. I'm not the kind of person who would cheat on my husband because I LOVE him, I know what loyalty and fidelity are, and I have some morals. If you cheat on someone, you're saying "fuck you, I care more about my own temporary physical pleasure than about your feelings". You don't give a fuck you like that to someone you love.

Reply

Just depends on how the relationship was before the marriage. I have dated girls where it was agreed upon to be not exclusive to see how things worked out without commitment. But I am assuming that, since OP said "cheated", it was probably thought to be an exclusive relationship.

Reply

12 - a good argument but for one thing, she cheated on him just a few months prior to the wedding, this usually implies that they were engaged?! I dunno about you but I assumed that when you're engaged it's pretty a exclusive relationship...

Reply

If he had found out later what difference would it have made? They would still be married either way. She was a cunt and waited 'til he was stuck with her to tell him...I don't see an upside to being told now...I'm sorry I just don't understand. Maybe It's just something I don't see.

Reply

Not really cuz of the whole cheating thing proves dat she's not honest especially if she not only did it once but three xs! And she also marry her without knwing this practically trapped him

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

I would rather have honesty than loyalty any time (still want both though). That way I can at least make a decision based on all the facts, not just the ones I know.

Loading data…