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Normally I would say not to jump into divorcing or breaking up with someone but In this case I think that's exactly what OP needs to do not only is he cheating but he's doing it with someone from their marriage counseling class a place where they are suppose to be trying to save their marriage and by the sounds of things OP'S husband has no interest in doing that.

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Normally I would say not to jump into divorcing or breaking up with someone but In this case I think that's exactly what OP needs to do not only is he cheating but he's doing it with someone from their marriage counseling class a place where they are suppose to be trying to save their marriage and by the sounds of things OP'S husband has no interest in doing that.

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Cheating is cheating and wrong either way, but there's a special hell for a person who takes money to save a marriage and deliberately tears it apart instead.

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Had an ex-wife who did something very similar. Spent a long time being angry both during the remainder the marriage and for a couple years afterwards. When you are able to finally walk away emotionally and not just physically you make yourself a lot happier

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It is worse when you find out the whole basis of the relationship was a misrepresentation, even down to the sexuality of your partner. Not only was the relationship over, but what you had was only a cover for his real preferences. I'm not judging the lifestyle I'm suggesting that would be a deeper betrayal.

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And if it was with the same-sex partner it's homosexuality or bisexuality. If it wasn't something you knew about your partner before that can be a bigger betrayal

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I agree with you ab I've been cheated on a lot and the most painful time was and still is when a guy cheated on me with another guy and I had no idea he swung that way it made me feel like something I did made him like guys that it was my fault

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if you're bisexual, you are bisexual whether your partner is the same sex or not, you're still bisexual, you don't change preference. cheating is cheating, whether it's with the same sex or not, there is no worse betrayal in a relationship, cheating is cheating

Is cheating the reason you went to counseling group in the first place? Or is it a new phenomenon? But overall I guess in this case you either decide to go to individual couples counseling to avoid such situations, or you just make up your mind and throw in the towel and move on to divorce.

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I agree, and I'd also like to ask who thought that a bunch of people struggling with their marriages should be part of a group like that? Maybe it's just me, but I think that a set up like that is bound to lead to trouble, because people whose relationships with their own partners are at a low point are exposed to people they might see as more sympathetic than their own partner. Individual counseling is the way to go, IMO.

Well, I guess you know what to talk about at your next meeting, huh? Seriously, though, they deserve to be called out at the very least. You also need to find out where your husband and the other woman went wrong and why they felt the need to cheat. Your marriage can't get better unless you talk about it and get to the root of the problem.

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