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You have to understand that if you say something to a girl and she isn't looking for it or wanting it, then you're a creep. But if a girl was to say she loves you and you "Uhh, thanks?", then you're an asshole and will be hated by all 1000 of her friends and all their friends too. It's the game we all play. It's fun, yeah?

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You have to understand that if you say something to a girl and she isn't looking for it or wanting it, then you're a creep. But if a girl was to say she loves you and you "Uhh, thanks?", then you're an asshole and will be hated by all 1000 of her friends and all their friends too. It's the game we all play. It's fun, yeah?

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just be glad she didn't lie and say she did. she could be crazy about you but not think it's love yet. love takes time to grow. some more than others. be patient.

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aww, sorry op. it's not really that big of a deal though. embarrassing for now, but it'll be worth it when she says it back one day

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yeah 71 cause only nerds read fml. though you do have a point. us nerds know a bit more about love than your typical dick head jock. we never get girls but we sit and watch relationships fail and see where people go wrong. most of us just never get a chance. but when we do it usually lasts.

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91 is absolutely right. Me and my boyfriend are both nerds (im president ('a woman is a president of anything?' the haters ask) and hes vp of our high schools game cub) but we know the game and essentially what not to do thx to ppl like 71.

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102- if you're trying to direct your comment at me, I am fully aware of how much of a nerd I am. does it make a difference? if that comment is not directed at me, then my apologies.

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102- if you're trying to direct your comment at me, I am fully aware of how much of a nerd I am. does it make a difference? if that comment is not directed at me, then my apologies.

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102- if you're trying to direct your comment at me, I am fully aware of how much of a nerd I am. does it make a difference? if that comment is not directed at me, then my apologies.

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#95, as much as I'd like to believe that's true, it isn't. Maybe for teenagers or young adults, but watching where other people go wrong can only get you so far. Being in long lasting relationships doesn't mean much either, simply because you can be with someone for any length of time for all the wrong reasons. The best way to learn is with trial and error. Even your 'typical dick head jock' can learn from their mistakes.

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maybe the long lasting relationship is from NOT fucking up in the first place? and if that's true that dick head jocks can learn, why did I never see it in high school?

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177- it does. I've seen people go through tons of relationship drama (of their own causing) and still stay together. Part of being in a relationship is making mistakes and knowing how to fix them. And as for dickhead jocks, I know plenty. And there's no miracle to change them but some people really do manage it.

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Someone confused "love" with "rumpy pumpy". Just cause 'nerds don't get laid' - which is also not true - doesn't mean you can't be aware that after four months, "I love you" is not something to tell your girlfriend. God forbid boys and girls go on dates for months on end before even sleeping together.

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I'm a nerdy girl, which means I can rock up in any university science department or sci fi convention and get more sex than you probably do in a year. :P

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Exactly. You can't read someone else's mind to find out if they love you back. What you can do is start introducing the word "love" more often into conversation. I.e. "I love the way you smile at me", or "I love cuddling up to watch a movie with you". The other person's responses will guide you toward less or more intimacy in verbalizing feelings of love.

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Exactly. That sucks, but four months? Seriously? My cookies last longer than that. You can't say "I love you" after four months and expect your partner to love you back. It was a bad response, but you shouldn't be so quick, Ted.

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exactly...people don't always confess love for you at the same moment you feel it for them. Life is not a perfectly choreographed movie or sitcom. I applaud you for having the courage to love first & to say so. Don't go all negative now.

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exactly...people don't always confess love for you at the same moment you feel it for them. Life is not a perfectly choreographed movie or sitcom. I applaud you for having the courage to love first & to say so. Don't go all negative now.

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Yes, I'm convinced that that is exactly what happened. Because when someone tells me something that I didn't hear, my natural impulse is to immediately thank them.

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I meant to dislike this comment but accidently liked it. so there ya go. -39 instead of -40. your welcome.

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she still could have thought of something nicer without saying " I love you" back um...thanks sounds like she really didn't care and as a guy it'd piss me off. just sayin.

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first off freeze your dumb and from the sounds of it you get into relationships with really crazy klingy people or none at all, second I completely agree I wouldn't dump her but that's really messed up I would definitley be crushed

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So, what you're saying, 80, is that as soon as one earns the title, "boy/girlfriend" they'd be obligated to say "I love you"? the fuck? I think someone knows not the weight of their words.

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#80, what about devaluing the phrase "I love you"? That's essentially what you're doing when you say it "countless" times a day. Show your love through your actions at all times, and verbalize your love a little bit less often. I think that'd be more effective.

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There's nothing wrong with telling the person you love that you love them all the time. You're assuming I didn't show them through actions, which is a blind argument. I'm not devaluing the term because when I use it I'm honest about it. Maybe it's because I spent 7 months of dating the person before asking to be in a relationship that I feel like anyone in one shouldn't feel some sort of accomplishment for finally being able to tell someone he's been in a relationship for 4 months that

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Just because you dont love someone doesn't mean you shouldn't be together. Love takes time to blossom. To ppl like you, 'love' is 'want to bang'

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I don't view love that way at all, asshole. I wouldn't date someone 7 months before asking to be in a relationship if my sole purpose was to bang. I believe it should blossom and once you love the person you should begin a relationship. I struggle to understand why someone would be in a relationship with someone they don't love. Maybe I'm in the wrong here and the whole world goes into relationships hoping one day they'll love their partner, but it all seems really stupid to me why they don't

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117#: Because that's just not how it works.....being in a relationship means you are exclusive. It doesn't mean you have to "love" the person right away.

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117 - I feel you have the right idea. However, most people today skip the whole courtship phase and go straight into a relationship, becoming "exclusive" before having feelings greater than "I really like this person". I apologize for the previous assumption, but many people don't go in the same order as you apparently have.

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Freeze, what you said in comment #117 exactly conveys how I feel about relationships. From what I've seen of your comments here, I respect you as a person. But, I do honestly feel that overusing the phrase "I love you" does cheapen it somewhat. That's what I meant by devaluing. Think about what makes things valuable in the real world: rarity. Anyway, I didn't mean to assume anything about you; I was just offering my view.

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ah yes, the freeze way is the only way to be in a relationship. of course, how silly of us. i must therefore apologise, i go into relationships whenever i feel comfortable doing so, based on my own feelings of where i see something going, rather than meeting a set list of criteria as per your opinions. unfortunately this ultimately doomed relationship is still going. how i wish it would just end already so i can finally implement your opinions into my life.

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yeah I was going to say 4 months isn't an incredibly long time, you barely know each other at that point.

FYL indeed. But you have to think about it. If you were a girl and some guy confessed his love for you, and you didn't love him back, that instantly makes the situation extremely awkward. There wasn't much else that the girl could say.

FYL indeed. But you have to think about it. If you were a girl and some guy confessed his love for you, and you didn't love him back, that instantly makes the situation extremely awkward. There wasn't much else that the girl could say.

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