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By Anonymous - / Saturday 16 January 2016 06:40 / United States - Denver
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In fairness, on the planet your boyfriend hails from, "I'm gonna fucken murder ur pussy" is an extremely eloquent phase used to court royalty. He must think very highly of you.

He's either stupidly horny right now or he has no idea what turns you on. I'm guessing that it's option b. Maybe it would be be beneficial for both of you if you took a few days to teach him what turns you on and what turns you off.

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He's either stupidly horny right now or he has no idea what turns you on. I'm guessing that it's option b. Maybe it would be be beneficial for both of you if you took a few days to teach him what turns you on and what turns you off.

In fairness, on the planet your boyfriend hails from, "I'm gonna fucken murder ur pussy" is an extremely eloquent phase used to court royalty. He must think very highly of you.

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Rofl is than better than when i once said "I'd suck the piss out of you"???? In a failed attempt to express how amazing my cunnilingus skills was and not literally Suck the pee out of her...???

i think he meant that he was happy about you willing to develop the more physical aspect of your relationship, he just represented it really poorly. you might wanna talk to him about his sensitivity, but don't reprimand him about it.

That would shut me down too.. however some good four play would turn it around. If you have a really low sex drive and it's affecting your relationship maybe it would be with while to talk to a doctor? Or spend some extra time getting to know what works for you, and then conveying that to your boyfriend.

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If OP does have a low sex drive, it could always be that her body isn't producing enough estrogen or a similar problem. There is never any harm in getting checked out by a doctor, unless they misdiagnose you that is :P

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Whether or not a relationship with someone who has a very low sex drive, and a normal sex drive will work, really depends on how much the low sex drive person is willing to compromise. Because a low sex drive does not create a "need", where as a sex drive does.

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I don't agree with that at all 70. Coming from someone with a high sex drive, I think the person with the higher sex drive should be willing to compromise rather than the person with the low sex drive. No one should force themselves to have sex of they're not feeling it. That sounds horrible for them. And speaking from past experience, it feels awful to feel like you've coerced your partner into sex when they weren't feeling it. At least I hope anyone would feel awful about it.

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How about both compromise? Relationship shouldn't be about just one person giving and other taking. The person with the higher sex drive should compromise and sometimes tend to their drive by themselves, and the person with low sex drive should also compromise at times, and find a way together that would help them get into the mood, whether it's extra foreplay or something else. I'm a person with a low sex drive, and if me and my husband's sex life would be dependand on when I'm horny, we'd have sex only once a year if even that, and my husband would be a very unhappy man. Luckily he's ready to help me get into the mood though, and I'm ready to help him even on times when I'm really not in the mood for sex. "Giving him a hand" only takes a few minutes anyway. Both sides should try to make that extra effort!

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#75 Yes. That is exactly what it feels like. My ex had an INCREDIBLY HIGH sex drive, whereas mine is kinda low. I mean, I very much enjoy sex, but I prefer being romanced into it. He wanted to do it every day, several times a day. It got to the point where any time we started kissing, he wanted to have sex. And he made me feel guilty about it when I didn't want to. It's one of the most horrible experiences I've had to go through. You have the irrational guilt put on you of not reciprocating sex coupled with the humiliating knowledge that they're even able to make you feel that way.

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I am asexual and my boyfriend is not. Our relationship is very healthy. Just because you can't imagine such a relationship working out doesn't mean it is impossible.

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