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  Amethyst888  |  14

If you have nothing meaningful to contribute, especially if you are the first comment, then don't fucking bother wasting our time and a first comment on informing us that you were *gasp* first to comment.

By  zinnyt  |  4

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  ALpein  |  0

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  mars13_fml  |  8

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  mars13_fml  |  8

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  mystashisgone  |  6

So you had sex in the time took for it to show that you were pregnant and you were already divorced? Unless he cheated or something rash like that I would figure that the sex would end well before you were pregnant and divorced...

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  hannahkours  |  0

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  yahoowizard  |  16

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  OhDearBetrayal  |  25

117- 37 is the maximum age of safe fertility so if she's 40 there's a high chance of complications. Also, if she is 40, that would mean she would be 60 by the time her kids grow up to be adults. Who wants that?

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  _streets_  |  17

93 - Op means the only thing positive in her day was the pregnancy test so positive as in 'yes you are pregnant', she doesn't mean the only good thing. There are two meanings for positive.

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  philbelfrage  |  13

I believe mars13 was referring to the poster of this comment who said "well as long as it was his" like as long as it's his baby it's all good. Also, even if she is older it doesn't say they were trying for a baby. I don't think they would be trying for a baby anyways as it is pretty apparent things probably weren't going to well in their marriage.

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  DocBastard  |  38

OhDearBetrayal - women can have children safely well into their 40's and even 50's in rare instances. Yahoowizard - Who the hell are you to decide when people should and shouldn't have children?

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  OhDearBetrayal  |  25

184- I'm aware of that, I was just stating that there's a higher rate of complications in those people who have children later in their years. There was a woman who had a child when she was 70 something so of course it's possible. I wasn't including that 1%.

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well said Mr. Docbastard. my mama has a two year old and a nine month old and they are the healthiest babies I know :) and my mama is 42! its never too old to have kids as long as you know you can take care of them like my parents can.

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  mars13_fml  |  8

148- thank you I was just referring to the comment. I know there are two meanings to the word positive lol but people kept saying that her getting it was good and I didn't think so, so I wanted to know why.

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  AliceLockehart  |  18

My Mum's 38 & this is baby number 7 for her. Healthiest (Not to mention prettiest) baby I've ever seen. I know a few older women that have had babies recently, all of them healthy :).

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  Jezlovespink  |  5

my mother in law had her last baby at 42 and she was fine, it actually seemed like if she got preggo pretty easy...as if in she did not have any problem trying. (she told us it was a "surprise baby, not planned out thou).

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  GrahamAker  |  3

I think the reason it's an fml is because he divocred HIM while bieng pregnant. And his lawyers might be able to say by doing that she wanted to raise the kid on her own. Thus losing child support and other benifits.

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  doctorhook86  |  24

272: I know it's pretty common, but im not convinced people under 25 are mature enough for marriage. Maybe not even under 30... Actually scratch that; I don't think some people will ever be mature enough for marriage. (Girls and guys both)

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  Anai08  |  17

274- I actually completely agree. I feel like people nowadays don't take marriage seriously enough, or don't understand what responsibility/work it really is at times. And there are some people, who are never mature enough to understand this, but get married anyway because of numerous societal expectations and such. Hence, divorce rates in this country are ridiculous. 293- I don't know you, so I can't say how mature or not you are, and by no means do I judge you for your decision. But I cannot even IMAGINE tying my life to someone forever at 16. I have just barely begun to live my life and become the person I want to be. So how could I promise someone the person I am today is who they'll have forever, when I know that I (and my life) will be totally different ten years from now? And I'm 22, and have been in a great, stable relationship for three years.

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  kattylizbeth  |  19

Docbastard: after 35, it is recommended that women not have children as the chance for down syndrome and other birth defects are much higher. This is fact however, my 39 y/o cousin just had a healthy baby. Regardless, I doubt women in their 50's will be having babies as they should have hit menopause by their late thirties or late fourties. You have to understand that women know their child bearing limits.

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  venom1576  |  3

The father is never too old to have children. They meant the mother. This means the dad could be 75 and the mom 30 and still have a child. Yet the other way around is near to impossible. Thus, so what if your father is over 60?

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  fishereric  |  1

Is no one picking up on that unless these were the world's quickest divorce proceedings, they must have had sex when they were separated and well on their way to being divorced? They deserve it.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

324, I thought the same thing. However. here is a theory: In CA, once a request for a divorce is turned in, months later a judge makes their decision, and after the involved parties are granted a divorce, they aren't divorced for 6 months. So maybe the original poster meant the judge granted the divorce today and they had sex days before someone requested the divorce?

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  jessimica642  |  8

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  nerdchic  |  5

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  TheDrifter  |  23

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221 You are very quickly becoming one of my favorite commenters to read. As I read through most of the comments on this FML I found myself thinking along the exact same lines as you have in pretty much every situation. o_o

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Some fathers don't deserve to have contact. My ex is case and point. Current US Army soldier, drug addict, alcoholic, sex addict, manic and a sociopath who brainwashes our 5 year old and tries to take him to a foreign country to flee from child support. Bam.

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  buttercup1998  |  5

That is a very rude comment....do you even know what she is going through? Probably not right? Your probably a very self centered f**king guy in a bad mood bc you have to put up with a mad woman or have mommy issues....asshole.

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Not all females end up with the kids all the time an the guy pays child support. Just cuz she had it doesn't necessarily mean she'll keep it. And how do you know they won't have joint custody?

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  thatonename  |  7

Just tossing this out there? If she divorced him, why should he have to pay child support? And let's say it's slightly different circumstances where she knew she was prego before the papers were served. It was her choice to leave, shouldn't she have to take all the responsibilities associated with leaving?

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  raraisbang  |  12

211 that's the stupidest thing I've heard in quite awhile. First of all, just judging by the way the fml is worded, I'm assuming she found out after the divorce. Second of all, you should not have to stay in a loveless relationship because you are pregnant. The father of the baby should still support his kid, no matter what the circumstances. He made half the baby, and he's probably half responsible for the divorce. And even if he isn't, he still shouldnt get anal about supporting a baby he helped make.

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  TheDrifter  |  23

It's her child, her right to choose to keep it or not. The only part he has in the process from here on out is to pay for her choices. The "it's half his" argument is seriously getting old. If he has the responsibility to pay for the upbringing, shouldn't he get some say in it? Maybe a fair chance at custody? Option to let the mother keep the financial responsibility along with the child if he does not want it and she chooses to keep it?

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211- You sound pretty fucking dumb. My dad pays child support on me even though he and my mother got a divorce. He is VERY involved in my life. The divorce hasn't changed anything. He buys me nice things, and still pays a hefty amount for child support. He tells me that whenever he gets a raise, I do too. There are some good- hell, AMAZING fathers out there. And if you have a child with someone and you separate, you STILL have to pay child support. Just because you divorce doesn't mean the child disappears.

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  Raooka  |  6

It's his child too. Why is it that it's only their child when it comes to child support payments but it's HER child when it comes to deciding anything about that child, or custody?

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  raraisbang  |  12

I think that if the father wants visitation rights he should fight for them, if he doesn't, that's his loss. But no matter the circumstances, he still needs to pay child support for the kid he made.

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  downtime  |  12

IMO, if you've been married and had a child together than later on decide to get a divorce then so be it, you take responsibility for it because you both went in expecting everything to work and it didn't. But when the child is conceived in a time when she plans to leave him then it seems like it is entirely her responsibility. As far as he is concerned he is still in a marriage, and therefore knowing that sex may lead to childbirth is not necessarily a bad thing to him. She was the one having doubts and reconsidering the relationship while still engaging in sex, so in a way he was deceived. I know the courts would rule in favour of what is best for the child, which makes sense, but it doesn't change the fact that the father was effectively screwed over.

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276 where does it say that she wanted the divorce? It clearly states it wasn't a good day for her so maybe he initiated the divorce and she got pregnant during their last encounter. Maybe they tried to make it work but failed. It's his kid, he has an obligation to be there physically and financially as does the mother!

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  iliketurdles  |  7

133, That's why you don't go on FML in the early hours of the morning. By the way, you're freaking cute. And by you I mean the turtle sunbathing behind the girl in her sundress.

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