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I cancelled the wedding
By chocolateisyum / Sunday 9 October 2011 11:13 / Australia
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  Keyman1212  |  14

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  gardianlh24  |  0

Because the man left 2 children on their own, with a door wide open and a stove on. Those children's lives were in danger. My mother put my brother and I through the same fucking situation, my dad saved me from vein put in child foster care system, but my brother's dad wasn't married to her so my bro went to foster care. END THE DAMN RELATIONSHIP!!! An I have been in 2 relationships before, each lasting quite a while I don't live with my bio mom and I'm not fucked up. Shame on you.

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  Glockinator  |  2

Yeah stay in a relationship where a guy puts a kid in danger. That's so much better than ending a relationship. So not worth it. You're so stupid. Of course someone should end that. Kids come first. Oh and their safety

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  Glockinator  |  2

Yeah stay in a relationship where a guy puts a kid in danger. That's so much better than ending a relationship. So not worth it. You're so stupid. Of course someone should end that. Kids come first. Oh and their safety

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  Keyman1212  |  14

You were born in 1996. Your definition of being in a relationship, and your advice to end the relationship is invalid. How long is a long relationship for you? A few months?

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  Angelastic_fml  |  18

Do they deserve to be fucked up in the head for the rest of their lives because they can see that their father (if he is their father; the OP didn't say) doesn't care about them? I don't know them well enough to give advice one way or another, but after this event, you can be fairly sure she won't trust him alone with the kids for a while, so they'll effectively be a one-parent family anyway, only with a guy around sometimes that she'll be angry with. Not exactly a healthy family dynamic.

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  Kylias  |  6

Excuse me, #27, I don't know if your daddy didn't hug you enough when you were a child or what, but not everyone who grew up without a present father is fucked up in the head. If he doesn't see this as being irresponsible, it's definitely a valid reason to break up a marriage. He left a 5-year-old and 2-year-old home alone with the door open and the stove on... and evidently didn't tell anybody. They could've gotten outside or somebody else could've gotten in! And what if the stove caught on fire? No, no, it's not his fault at all. He just left two toddlers alone in an actively dangerous house, that's all. He didn't do anything stupid. No, no. Nothing stupid here. Twit.

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  Keyman1212  |  14

35- You say kids come first, well having a father is pretty God damn important for kids. My father died when I was young, and my mother never remarried. And you know what? That scarred me as an individual, because I had no male father figure to look up to.

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  facilitator  |  0

Boo hoo, my father was a drug abusing gambler who would spend all his money on pills. I may have had to figure out things on my own, but i ended up fine. The past is the past and you'll never get anywhere if you keep looking back.

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  Llama_Face89  |  33

33- actually he isn't. Regardless of whether or not they were asleep it is still irresponsible, not to mention illegal, to leave small children alone like that. Putting her children's wellbeing in jeopardy is a perfectly good excuse to break it off.

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  morgaleigh  |  6

Keyman I am sorry for your loss but it is possible for a person to grow up without a father or male figure in their life and be perfectly fine. I do not even know who my father is and my mother never had a serious relationship until I turned 18. She put ME first in all of the decisions that she made, as the OP should. Ending the relationship does not mean he is no longer their father either. If he chooses not to be in their life that is on him. In my opinion not all men are meant to be fathers, I just hope that they have a strong mother.

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  bored11  |  0

Not to be rude but if I was in the OP's position I would second guess marrying her fiancé. Plus I found your comment on someone's birth year offensive. I was born in 1996 and is in the same relationship that is currently more than a year, so I would say my advice to friends might be a little more valid than you automatically assume. I also know that a guy who deliberately leaves two toddlers alone is someone I wouldn't want my children to be around.

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  bamagrl410  |  31

Umm I grew up without my father & I would venture to say I'm just fine. Had a great boyfriend for a while, plenty of friends, going to one of the best colleges in my country. And my mom also did what she did for my safety. My point is: I'm not sure if anyone told you, but once you have kids it's not about you & your spouse anymore. It's about your children. I believe in the sanctity of marriage also & hope I never have to get divorced. But I'm also smart enough to know that 1) the stove could have caught the house on fire. 2) the children could have been severely injured by the scissors. Not to mention something else could have happened around the house. And to top it all off, he left them there alone - which is ILLEGAL. Whether they were sleeping at the time or not is irrelevant. It is illegal either way. Personally, I wouldn't be sticking around with this guy. He clearly things his own interests are more important than his children. That won't change just because he says "I do".

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  dontpanic_fml  |  32

Oh Keyman, sweetheart...you are just getting too cute. Accusing everyone else of not being able to read when you refuse to address any valid point that others are making and instead just keep repeating the importance of children growing up with two parents...ya know, even if one of them willfully and recklessly endangers said children. That's ok, AS LONG AS HE'S THERE. Also, please stop saying he's their father; it doesn't say whether he is. I'm very glad to see that there are a lot more non-morons than morons on this thread, but the idiocy of the morons is some of the worst I've seen on this site.

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71- I think he was talking about boys need to have a male figure in their life. Their father is probably not the best person to look up to. They can still find one. There's always other men. I think it's best to keep a family together. If the kids are young it can really screw up their life. My parents split up when I was only seven and I'll never be exactly the same. I think he deserves another chance and a good lecture. Tearing a family apart is never the answer.

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  audiophileMom  |  11

Keyman - i am older than you AND I actually am a parent, which I'm guessing you are not. Neither a relationship with someone who thinks it's fine to leave two children that small home by themselves nor having said person for a father figure are helpful. I'm sorry you didn't have a football coach or teacher to look up to and to take you under his wings but infact not ANY parent is better than no parent. In your case it is a completely different situation because i'm sure your father was a wonderful dad that just passed away. Not like in OPs case where the father (figure) is an irresponsible and therefor already boderline abusive jerk. You simply can't compare the two situations. And I sure as hell hope she leaves him before child protective service makes her/takes the kids.

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  G0t4acked  |  8

27- You are so fucking stupid. Her fiancé left the stove on, door open, and two infants alone. That shit is illegal. If you ever have kids, god help them.

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  ben827  |  10

Chill, most people on FML troll in comments. They probably are just trolling. I for one understand where you're coming from. Most people here probably agree with you, but trolls gonna troll. Nothing wrong with that. You should try it...or not.

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  dublove05  |  8

Because he left 2 young children ALONE with the front door open and THESTOVE ON! Those poor kids could have been kidnapped or the house could have caught fire harming the kids. If that guy is too much of a dumbass to care for your kids he is not worth keeping

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Would you still be saying he deserves another chance if one of the children had gotten injured or if the house had caught on fire? Just because the children were ok doesn't excuse his negligence!!!! She should call off the wedding!! They aren't married yet so it isn't like she is breaking up the family, unless the kids are his (it doesn't say in the original post). If her fiancé wants to be a father he needs to grow the hell up and put the well-being of innocent children before sports!!!!!

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  glittercookies  |  12

27- shut up you child. You obviously don't know the importance of children, their safety, and a healthy relationship. You really think that it's okay to be In a relationship with someone who neglects the children?

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  Sammiches  |  12

There's no such thing as European Football, it's American Football, and Football/Soccer.

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  edgestr  |  2

Awww sammiches beat me to it.

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  Sammiches  |  12

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There is a Europe football league.

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  gotufirst  |  6

European football is soccer

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  batman_516  |  9

In Australia, football (or footy) refers to either Rugby League, AFL (Australian Football League), and on some occasions Rugby Union. All three are different. European Football we call soccer, and we have no professional American Football (Gridiron) competition.

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  jcorrea8521  |  5

Since this is australia, foot ball is soccer hence "footy" would probably mean a soccer game.

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  cc_the_beast  |  6

Sorry 'footy' is not soccer, soccer is soccer. Footy means either rugby league, rugby union or Australian rules, and OP has already clarified it was the Aussie rules. PS OP....Go the Cats!!!

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  emilyaust  |  8

You're absolutely retarded if you don't know what footy is.

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  kiara20  |  8

271 its soccer not football. It's football in England and all that but if you say football to an Aussie the last thing they would think would be soccer. And 261 I like afl :D

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  EMTchic  |  14

332- "teo" ??? Really ??? You can't spell two right ??? Really, I'm not usually a grammar/spelling nazi but dear god, how fucked up do you have to be to not be able to spell two correctly??? Especially seeing as it is not only in the FML, but spelled correctly in the FML . Edit: and I just noticed, you can't apparently can spell year right either . Dumbass !

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In England 'Footy' is the sport Football which is the game with a ball you kick around and score goals. We don't have "Soccer", and American 'Football' is closer to rugby but the American one has more protective clothing.

By  JajaFMLer  |  3

AW THAT SUCKS!

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  rushgirl  |  6

I feel like that is a slightly redundant sentence.

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Don't mess. And nice dp techweed!

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  bigkountry209  |  0

and afl is arena football league

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  batman_516  |  9

In Australia, football (or footy) refers to either Rugby League, AFL (Australian Football League), and on some occasions Rugby Union. All three are different. European Football we call soccer, and we have no professional American Football (Gridiron) competition.

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  doctorwhogirl  |  0

I have cat that looks just like yours, except it's soo much cuter

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  P374RD3D  |  9

#121 "The no sex for him" "No the sex for him" "No sex the for him" "No sex for the him" "No sex for him the" None of the above seem to make sense to me.

By  a563  |  3

Wtf is da footyy

By  Grimmerie  |  31

best. parent. ever.

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