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FML - The follow-up
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Hi there, this is the author. I've never commented on my own fml before, so please forgive me if I'm doing it wrong. Here are some details that might clear up some confusion I'm seeing in the comments: The HR manager of the potential employer is the one who told me that I was over qualified and that having a familial or romantic relationship with another employee was against their policy. This discussion was during my 2nd call back interview. Getting a 2nd call back had really gotten my hopes u
By Dat_Class_Tho - / Thursday 3 March 2016 23:33 / United States - Atwater
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I've never got policies like that, they're not really a thing in the UK, fair enough if you're her boss or vice versa, but otherwise what are they worried about? You having sex on the desk?

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I've never got policies like that, they're not really a thing in the UK, fair enough if you're her boss or vice versa, but otherwise what are they worried about? You having sex on the desk?

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What 8 said, but also undeserved promotions. Lots of companies have policies like that to prevent the boss from coercing an employee into a relationship with the offer of a promotion or promoting his wife or GF instead of someone else. It's a pretty logical policy if you think about it.

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Like I say, I can understand if they're going to be working directly together, but as they're in completely different buildings and departments, the fiancés company refusing to hire their spouse to be is more likely to be a source of conflict

Holy hell Batman! WTF just happened here? An employer doesn't want to hire you because your fiance works there already... OK that's fairly normal... I'm following this so far... You can't get a job anywhere near by because of this. Because you know people in the town and now you have to move or commute 2 hours... The logic train has just jumped the tracks and turned into a duck.

Unless you're engaged or related to the rest of the town (in which case, well, that's a whole 'nother kettle o' fish), the family/relationships concern for other jobs should frankly not be a concern. The way you're overreacting, however, tells us more about the way you behave as an employee than you might realize. I wouldn't hire someone who pitches a fit about a minor company policy in the first place. Since you seem to be new to the workforce, might I recommend reading the Ask A Manager blog t

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Depending on the industry and size of the town OP is in, there may only be only place in that town OP is qualified to work at their current salary level. It's not uncommon in small town America for this to happen. Since OP mentions having to drive 2 hours it sounds that also makes it sound as if OP is in a small town. OP may not be overreacting at all.

There are 3 things at work here keeping you from that job. 1. you're female 2. you're overqualified 3. you're in a relationship with another employee It sucks that American companies will turn you down for just one of those things, but all 3 at once is a career killer.

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Male interviewer will hire an attractive female but not an unattractive one, a female interviewer will hire another female less attractive than her but not more. Not exactly the most common thing, but it definitely does still happen. Not so much the "You're a girl so you just can't do it" anymore, the world isn't quite *that* stupid.

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