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By Anonymous / Friday 24 October 2014 20:52 / Ireland - Dublin
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  Geeve95  |  11

I agree with number two. But I don't think her boss is a male because it would be weird if a male was working at a daycare place. Yknow. Like this isn't Daddy Day Care (movie) but that's besides the point you must report or find a new job cause that is not right that you don't get a break.

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  slyde32  |  12

It's not that uncommon for males to work in child care, and even less uncommon for them to be the owner or boss. my sister works in childcare, and one of her bosses is male

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  Geeve95  |  11

Oh well sorry for my lack of knowledge about child care services.

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  Geeve95  |  11

Your judgment has no effect on me. Call me what you want. Me having no knowledge of one thing makes me a sexist? That's cool.

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  rocker_chick23  |  27

#13: What is wrong with a male working at a day care center? I know plenty of guys who love kids and want to work with them. Are you also disturbed at the thought of male baby sitters?

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  Geeve95  |  11

I never said there was anything wrong with it I just never really heard of it.

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  Ltsdragons  |  19

Well #43 it could be like daddy day care. OP's boss could be male and the daycare could be a very good one. It's pretty sexist to me that you think that only females should babysit. Honestly, men can babysit just as well as women can.

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  Geeve95  |  11

Nowhere in this dumb little argument that everyone's getting worked up over instead of me did I say only women can work in a daycare. I believe that women can do what men can do and men can do what women can do. I just said/meant that I've never really heard of or seen men working in a daycare centre. I did nt say that men can't or that it's just a women's job. I was not making this sexist you guys just pinned it on me calling me ignorant, arrogant, sexist etc... I was not labelling I got labeled I'm not playing the victim or the suspect. All you guys could have said was "Many males actually work in child services" that's it you didn't have to make all these conclusions of be being a sexist, ignorant, arrogant etc... It was that simple and you made it into a big deal.

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  slyde32  |  12

no, you were ignorant in saying her boss is likely female judged purely on the fact that you've never seen a male working in child care, like it or not that comment was a bit sexist, and completely un needed, I don't usually go as far as calling people rasict or sexist because I usually call it an opinion, but in your case it was a little sexist.

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  Geeve95  |  11

How does that make me a sexist if I've never seen it. I would be a sexist if I knew the males worked in child services and said that only women should work in child services. Call me what you want. It has no affect. We obviously see things differently. So judge me as much as you like. Cause your way of seeing and understanding things is much better then mine... Right?

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  eksyneet  |  23

#48, you said, verbatim, that "it would be weird if a male was working at a daycare place". you didn't say "i've never heard of a male working at a daycare place", you said "it would be weird". the implication being that working at a daycare place is by default a woman's job, otherwise why would it be weird for you? so, just stop, admit to making a prejudiced sexist statement, and learn from it. anyone can say something like this, it's normal. what sucks is when people refuse to reflect on what they say and choose to stay ignorant of their own stereotype filled thinking.

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  Maycontainnuts  |  17

I'm with Greave here; if you have personally only experienced say, women working in day care, why shouldnt you think thats the case everywhere else? She never meant men couldn't work in daycare, just that her experience suggested to her a female was more likely. Don't jump down each others throats.

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  hockeygoalie13  |  14

The phrases that you chose to use in your comment are what made it sound sexist. Saying "it would be weird," "yknow," and "like this isn't daddy day care" make it sound as if you have something wrong with men working in child care, which implies that women should be doing that type of work. Beyond that, it really wasn't necessary to comment on the gender of the boss being odd in the first place.

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  Geeve95  |  11

Thanks for seeing this argument in my shoes. I'm not saying that you are on my side I'm just saying that you understand how I see it. You handle it more maturely than any of us here. Instead of labelling. Oh BTW I'm a guy.

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  Geeve95  |  11

I understand how I may have put it made me sound sexist ignorant arrogant etc. but that's definitely not what I meant it to be like. There is absolutely nothing wrong with men working in child services just where I'm from it's just uncommon it does it doesn't mean that they can do it or they don't do it is just uncommon and that's it. I'm not sure how else to put it. Cause if you think what I just said was sexes ignorant and arrogant you have some issues.

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  Geeve95  |  11

I come from a small town so just because I don't see many males working in child services makes me a sexist ignorant arrogant etc. sure my wording is different but labeling me and trying to make yourself sound more superior. I can't help by my lack of knowledge of child services and who work there. Here's a fact * there are more females who work as a police officer is in my town then makes* is that make me sexist ignorant or arrogant no it's just how it is.

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  jthmtwin  |  16

And this must be the same belief that all nurses are women too since no one sees male nurses. Maybe this was true in the '50s but.... And when guys aren't distracted by sports they make great baby sitters!

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  fancy_98  |  16

#62 You're sexist due to the fact that you believe in the stereotypes that women look after baby's and men not so much. You yourself said you have no idea about daycares? Then how were you able to make the assumption that only females work there? I can answer that. You made the assumption due to the fact that you believe in the stereotype that women look after baby's and men don't. If you didn't believe in the stereotypes, you wouldn't have tried to correct the original comment saying it couldn't have been a male boss.

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  rosso700  |  14

I agree with him. Recently in times , there are actually more females then males who work in day cares. A lot of women don't feel comfortable with males working with there small children . I used to work in a day care.

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  slyde32  |  12

yes, there are more females, you're right, but that doesn't make it weird for a male to be in child care, and if op's boss is in fact male, that's even less uncommon. there used to be a chain of day care centers here where I live, one of the biggest, male boss. like I said in an earlier comment, my sister does child care and her boss or one of them is male. I wonder if these women feel uncomfortable leaving their child at home with the dad if men make them uncomfortable

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  iAmPaul  |  49

Jesus Christ. Look at yourself Geeve. I mean seriously take a fucking look at yourself. You've got this fucked-up "me vs. the world" mentality, and you even changed your profile picture to suit that. Literally go fuck yourself, because you're obviously taking out some sort of pent up emotions here on FML, and in particular on my comments. You're an immature little shit.

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  17031990  |  20

I used to work in childcare and where I live, although it is very uncommon for a male to work in childcare, it is not unheard of. I think a lot of males with hopes of working with children are put off by media/society these days as they don't want to be branded as a pervert for wanting to work with children. Unfortunately most of the parents from where I come from forget that you have to have a CRB check before being allowed anywhere near the children.

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  Demonyx  |  6

This entire subcomment seems a little sexist to me seeing as everyone seems to assume that you're implying that childcare is women's work, when you could easily have meant that men in child care seems like a creepy concept to you, so there

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#128 I guess you're right but I do think it's wrong when done, say, outside the entrances to stores where people with health issues (like asthma, such as myself) have to walk by and breathe the nasty smoke in hoping they don't have a reaction, or in the car with their children. Smoking is a personal choice to destroy your own health, and it becomes wrong when you force others to inhale your secondhand smoke.

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  Plinkin  |  10

Even in the states some don't require breaks. In Ohio it's up to the employer if they allow breaks of any kind. I'm sure some other states have similar laws.

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  Chiroptera_Man  |  10

I live in Ohio and breaks are necessary here...? Either two 15 min breaks every 8 hours or one half hour, or more depending on employe... I think that's how it goes. There are rules tho! I skim them on the OSHA rules on our wall :p

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  Plinkin  |  10

In Ohio, if the employer decides to give you breaks then there are laws they have to follow, but they are not required to give breaks to anyone over 18. I've had jobs where you come in and work 8 hours straight, no breaks...learned the law the hard way. Just google "do employers have to give breaks in ohio."

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  HeartYou101  |  30

In Ireland, its usually a 1 hour break for lunch for every six hours you do...That boss seems like a right dick for not letting you out for small breaks if everyone else is allowed...

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  CaptainCookie  |  8

Coffee isn't nearly as bad as cigarettes, especially if you're smoking/drinking around children. I'd rather have my child inhale the smell of some latte than be harmed by secondhand smoke.

By  Geeve95  |  11

I'm not sure how things run in Ireland but in Canada everyone is entitled to a break every 3 to 4 hours. I suggest getting a new job or you could have your own home daycare and care for children in private instead of an agency that way you are your own boss and you will probably get more money. Good luck :-) OP

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