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By anon / Wednesday 11 November 2015 03:28 / United Kingdom - London
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By  amberdea404  |  28

That doesn't necessarily mean that she's cheating. Maybe just looking, you could be making her unhappy.

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  ThatOneChick856  |  35

I know couples (who are friends of mine) that both have tinder, but they just do it for fun and it doesn't bother each other. But if OP's girlfriend is legitimately looking for potential partners, that is still her being a complete ass on the grounds of attempting to cheat. Hell, even if she wasn't planning on cheating but was still looking for the future, it's still a COMPLETE asshole move to be looking for a better partner while currently in a relationship. You break up /before/ you start looking if things aren't working with your current partner, not during.

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  mds9986  |  24

Look but don't touch.

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  Suaria  |  30

If you are looking for someone else that is cheating but if you are looking at someone because you think they are good looking doesn't mean you are cheating.

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  zarrganaut  |  17

If she's unhappy, then she needs to open up to op. Or she can just end things. If you're in a relationship, you should not be going on dating sites or apps. Whatsoever.

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  DoomedGemini  |  37

I feel like it's a comfort thing. My girlfriend and I can point out people we find attractive and talk over it, however I think a lot of couples can't. And that's fine, you need to talk over comfort levels. Going on dating sites, especially without your partner knowing? That's too far. And as someone pointed out, if you are on a dating site when you don't want to date you are wasting the people who are on there's time

By  pradip  |  25

Congratulations

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  thejonac  |  21

*going down

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  ekalfhsa  |  2

Tinder is the name for the flammable material you use to start a fire. I see what #3 was doing, it's just a shame nobody remembers that tinder was a thing before the app.

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  interesting33  |  33

That would be funny, though I would be concerned that there is no way for you to show that she is the bad guy then, mabe you could screenshot proof of her notifications and then make an account so you have proof you only got one after you found out?

By  Marmarfarfar  |  25

She could be just looking for friends

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  smallandroid  |  26

i actually know a weird amount of people who use tinder to find friends... they don't get much success so I'm not sure why they bother but... quite a few do use it for that legitimately.

By  ScenePanda45  |  13

not saying she is cheating or anything but bro. that sucks major ass. FYL op, sorry about that!

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  thejonac  |  21

without asking for an explanation? what would OP say, 'i wanna break up with you bc i found out you have a dating app even though i don't even know why you have it'?

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  ThatOneChick856  |  35

I can understand that some people use dating apps just for jokes or fun, but how can you even defend that point with "I don't understand what you'd be using a dating app, which its only purpose is to match you with potential partners, for!!"? Obviously it's possible that she uses it for the shits and giggles, but still the only possible thing she can be doing on that app is rating people or being matched with others, which OP may not be okay with even as a joke. Either way, OP should talk to their GF first.

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  ThatOneChick856  |  35

#23- There is a major difference between the gf actually trying to hide something from OP and just never bringing it up because the gf didn't see it as a big deal (if she is, in fact, just using it as a joke or to find friends). I mean, I can understand and don't think it's wrong to assume the worse-case scenario when you find out your partner is actively using a /dating/ app, but I just wanted to point out that there is a difference.

By  Opheliae  |  22

To be fair, when I was in a relationship I had Tinder because my friends and I found it amusing to swipe through and see the guys on there. So I wouldn't jump to conclusions.

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  abdel959  |  5

how is that fair? that means u were just whoring around in a relationship, like her

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  spidaman  |  14

I wouldn't say whoring around, but it's never good to know that your partner is looking at, rating and talking to other people they find attractive. whether it's for shits and giggles or not, why do they need to give their time to so many other people, when their partner may want it?

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  Opheliae  |  22

I wouldn't message any of the guys. My friend and I (during a "girls night") would just have fun swiping and gossiping and whatever. We as human beings judge everyone we see based on their attractiveness, even when we're in committed relationships–anyone who says otherwise is a liar.

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  lightbane  |  4

i think its prtety mean to judge others based off a photo. i know people who take it to heart. iy can destoy confidence. we all know your the type who thinks your better than the rest of the world. personality is the thing that counts. sorry #12 your a verry shallow person. i feel sorry for you future husbands.....

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  Opheliae  |  22

I don't need to explain myself to anyone, but all I'm going to say is a lot of you are playing the part of the pot calling the kettle black...

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Oh you ABSOLUTELY dont have to explain yourself. But being in a relationship and using an app that is known for being used to hook up with people is not cool if it's not something you discussed about with your SO. So, given that this is about OP and he clearly was no ok with that, your point, my friend, is as bad as getting kicked in the balls. Have a nice day :)

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