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By makayta / Saturday 8 October 2016 06:20 / United States - Los Angeles
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By  StormfrontX33_fml  |  24

I kind of dislike the mentality where we (as a society) feign interest in how people are doing by asking them as a general greeting. If you don't care, then don't ask. A simple hello would have sufficed instead of being mean.

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considering the reply to op, I'm not assuming they're a friend, ngl. it's seriously shitty to expect them to say they're fine tho like. I do it to complete strangers, sure, but when it's people I see regularly I'm gonna be honest, whether they're sincere or not. what an asshole tbh.

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  LyricaSilvan  |  29

I'm sorry, #2, but you make it sound as if it's OP's fault for being honest and admitting something was wrong. Telling them they should just claim to be fine is like saying "next time keep your mouth shut and you won't get hurt." It isn't OP's fault. It's natural to assume that if somebody asks you how you are, it's because they actually give a shit. OP shouldn't have to lie to avoid people being unpleasant. The coworker could just as easily have chosen not to ask if he didn't actually want an answer, or could have chosen not to be an ass.

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  species4872  |  19

I generally reply by saying "Up the shit", usually throws them for a loop, the look on some peoples face is priceless.

By  StormfrontX33_fml  |  24

I kind of dislike the mentality where we (as a society) feign interest in how people are doing by asking them as a general greeting. If you don't care, then don't ask. A simple hello would have sufficed instead of being mean.

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Yeah its seriously shitty that it's expected. and I mean I can kind of understand with complete strangers, but I assume this is a coworker they see frequently enough and they shouldn't have to say "I'm fine" when they're not around people they're roughly, loosely, whatever acquainted with. that's my thoughts anyway; I don't do this pretend bullshit around people I see frequently. it's stupid and a shitty, asshole thing to do what the coworker did.

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  RavenousRiley  |  2

Wtf are you talking about? The coworker probably got annoyed at OP's stupid response. "You don't want to know" seems like those sad fishing for attention facebook posts, where you ask the person what's wrong and they don't want to talk about it...

By  Eldslibo  |  20

To quote my boyfriend: My mother always taught me to be honest. It might have a little too inconsiderate, but you kind of walked into that one. Generally people don't care about others problems if they're not close. It's kind of sad, but it is how it is. I hope you have someone that you can talk to.

By  LyricaSilvan  |  29

Wow. What a dick...If he didn't actually care, why'd he bother asking? If it were me, I'd rather somebody not bother saying anything, rather than be rude about it. I don't blame you for feeling down if that's what you have to deal with at work, OP. I hope you feel better soon. Don't let your douchebag of a coworker get to you.

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  Lalala579121  |  27

Because, for whatever reason, it seems to be common courtesy to ask such things at the outset of a casual conversation between acquaintances. I don't really understand it either.

By  kuffis  |  9

Innocent explanation: your coworker interpreted "You don't want to know" to mean "Thank you for your concern but I would rather keep my private matters private."

By  Demon_of_Light  |  26

I hate when people ask questions they genuinely do not want to know the answer to. However, in the co-worker's defense, "you don't want to know" can come across as very accusatory or possibly very attention seeking. OP could have responded by simply stating they'd rather keep their business private.

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  MissPanda85  |  5

Completely agree. The co-worker's response was rude, yes, but he was probably annoyed at OP's answer of "you don't wanna know" which would have annoyed me too.

By  Fixme  |  5

Well, he or she was honest, at least. It may sound harsh, but it is possible for a co-worker to be concerned that you are all right without being prepared to dive into all your private problems. Look on the bright side and appreciate that someone noticed and asked.

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