By Sleeping on the couch - 17/10/2016 17:47 - United States - Schenectady
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That's not right, it's your stuff, she needs permission to use/take/sell it, that's very disrespectful of her. I consider that theft, and she basically chose the dog over you, not ok. I couldn't imagine this, my parents kept all the stuff I couldn't take with me when I moved out, and they continuously remind me it's there for when I want it and can grab it. Your mom doesn't understand why you're upset about this, so show her how it feels. Go into her room, take some of the things she cares about, jewellery, clothes, even furniture, and say you're listing it on the internet for sale, (don't literally do any of this), and turning it into your bedroom since we don't respect each other's property and space in this house. When she most likely gets upset, tell her, "well it's exactly what you did to me," and that she either needs to replace all your stuff, or give you money equivalent to the cost of your things. Her house was like a storage unit, just cause she owns the building, doesn't mean she's allowed to steal your things and use them as her own. It's still your property, and you did not give her permission to sell or use them, which by definition is stealing.
Ok. So, Teeny-bopper.. Who's house, or "storage unit" was it? Mom's. Was daughter-dearest paying for storage? Within a business if you don't pay storage fees, they can change the locks and toss your stuff. If she pays rent for her room, including while away from home, than we have a breach of agreement. But another question, do you really believe op paid for all the stuff she left in "her" room? The furniture, the clothes? Not very common if she did. I believe Ops main complaint is the statment mom made in easily tossing aside her things just to pamper the family dog instead. ps. Advising childish rebellion reflects your immaturity.. Please think instead of type.
Teeny-bopper," I'm 21. I have news for you, it doesn't matter of she paid for the stuff or if she paid rent, her stuff is still HER stuff and doing anything to it is damage of property and stealing which she can be charged with. Let me ask you, when you buy something and give it to someone else, is it still always yours cause you paid for it, or is it the other person's because you GAVE it to them? It's the OTHER PERSON'S, and this does NOT change with your kids. A gift is a gift, if you buy something for someone, it's THEIRS, and you do not get to hold it over their head and be a controlling dick, especially to your adult kids, that's a good way to make them hate you. You know, you're right about the storage unit example, the way the mother's house is different is it would be like a rented apartment. I have news for you, once your kids turn 18, you can't just kick them out, they are still a resident of that house and you need to go through proper legal channels to remove them. If someone doesn't pay rent in an apartment, a landlord can't just toss their stuff and neither can the mom. Like a landlord, the mom needs to get an eviction notice, usually gives the resident about 2 weeks to 30 days, AND send her daughter letters saying her stuff will be removed at the end of this time. Touching anything before that is theft and damage of property. Some parents and people, like you, have this incredible superiority complex and think you can treat your kids however you want once they turn 18. Well if you want to do that, fine, but prepare to be treated the same way because respect is a 2 way street and you do not get to treat others terribly and not expect the same treatment in return. A person that throws their child out or charges them exorbitant amounts and just abandons their responsibility of support because their kid hit a certain age has failed as a parent, not everyone is ready for the world at 18. You're supposes to be their for them, not treat them like a worthless burden that you can't wait to get out of your life. Before anyone does anything, they should always think "how would I feel if someone did this to me," don't want it done to you, don't do it to someone else. This goes for parents too and that's all my original proposal would show the mom. I could have went further, she can be charged with a crime but I thought that was a little far, equal treatment is enough to show what is fair. This is how the adult world works, you want different standards and approaches from your kids. Well don't be a bitch to them, they won't need it to you.
I have a hard time believing someone could be THAT dense, to not know that the loss of all your personal possessions would be upsetting. Call me paranoid, but I think she did it on purpose as a really passive aggressive way to get back at you for moving away to attend college. Given that she devoted an entire room towards spoiling and doting over a little dog, she sounds exactly like the kind of over-attached mother (with a constant/pressing need to baby something) that would resent her child for growing up and becoming independent. And I love dogs (especially pugs), but still... geez, lady- really?
Did she let you know she was doing that? Or, maybe, had asked you to take your stuff with you? Sucks if you didn't get the chance to save what you wanted to keep. Oh moms & empty nest syndrom.
Dear teany bopper, I hope kenyrabbit got as much of a kick out of your response as I did. I couldn't even get through the first paragraph before I died---yes. My heart stopped because I was bored to death. Hopefully, your summations on court won't be as long-winded, or the jury very just well might fall asleep. You might've had a good point, but I'll never know. Yawn
Dear indolent, Congratz on admitting to yourself and everyone else that you're both lazy and ignorant. You can't take 1 min to read a counter argument and get through 20 sentences, which is not even 2 paragraphs? That's just sad, and says a lot more about you than it does about me. It took you longer to type that reply than it would've to read my comment. Hopefully my jury choices will be a lot smarter than you, basing arguments on merit instead of length. Better to have a good structured point that few read, than to have no point at all that everyone reads which confirms I'm a useless troll that adds no value. Rolls eyes.
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I have a hard time believing someone could be THAT dense, to not know that the loss of all your personal possessions would be upsetting. Call me paranoid, but I think she did it on purpose as a really passive aggressive way to get back at you for moving away to attend college. Given that she devoted an entire room towards spoiling and doting over a little dog, she sounds exactly like the kind of over-attached mother (with a constant/pressing need to baby something) that would resent her child for growing up and becoming independent. And I love dogs (especially pugs), but still... geez, lady- really?
That's not right, it's your stuff, she needs permission to use/take/sell it, that's very disrespectful of her. I consider that theft, and she basically chose the dog over you, not ok. I couldn't imagine this, my parents kept all the stuff I couldn't take with me when I moved out, and they continuously remind me it's there for when I want it and can grab it. Your mom doesn't understand why you're upset about this, so show her how it feels. Go into her room, take some of the things she cares about, jewellery, clothes, even furniture, and say you're listing it on the internet for sale, (don't literally do any of this), and turning it into your bedroom since we don't respect each other's property and space in this house. When she most likely gets upset, tell her, "well it's exactly what you did to me," and that she either needs to replace all your stuff, or give you money equivalent to the cost of your things. Her house was like a storage unit, just cause she owns the building, doesn't mean she's allowed to steal your things and use them as her own. It's still your property, and you did not give her permission to sell or use them, which by definition is stealing.